Love & Jealousy
Jealousy can destroy relationships. It is a good idea to walk away from a relationship in the beginning if your partner is showing signs of jealousy he or she can’t deal with effectively. It is understandable they would be jealous of the person who kept staring at you all through your dinner date, but another issue if they become angry at you for it.
Regardless of what they may tell you, jealousy has nothing to do with love. It has to do with losing control because they feel insecure. Some men and women will be abusive in a jealous rage. Later, they will apologize and tell you it is just because they love you so much. It needs to be clear that love and jealousy aren’t the same thing. Do not let your relationship be controlled by jealousy or you will never be happy.
Some men and women try to fool themselves into believing things will improve over time, that their partner will become less jealous over time. It often doesn’t work that way. In fact it will consume both of you unless your partner works to improve how he or she views himself. Low self esteem and the threat of losing the person they have fuel jealousy to unbelievable levels.
The longer you allow such patterns of behavior to continue in your relationship the more difficult it will be to walk away from them. You may find yourself avoiding friends and family as well as not taking care of yourself to try and eliminate the jealousy. Nothing you do will work. This is because the views and perceptions of the person overcome with jealousy have to change.
The best thing you can do for yourself and a jealous partner is to discuss the issue in the beginning when it first takes place. Make sure you do this in a restaurant or other public place in case tempers rage out of control. Explain to your partner why their feelings of jealousy are unfounded as well as why you will not stay in the relationship unless they seek help. If your partner is willing to get counseling and follow through with making changes it may save your relationship. If they refuse, this is the time to walk away from the relationship and never look back.
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